Compelling through storytelling . . .

Silver Spring Toastmasters--you, too, may find the science-based information and practical suggestions of this blog entry, "What listening to a story does to our brains," interesting and helpful. And check out some of the other works recommended by those who comment.

Speaking of storytelling: Thank you, Eldon, Merlyn, and Clarence--storytellers par excellence--for calling up and sharing insights from your personal public-speaking journeys with us in "The Power of the Spoken Word" Q&A. And thank you, Pauline, for all the thought you put into making this an evocative and valuable experience for all. We need to do it again!

Debate Night!

Experiencing the magic of the tools, or the tools of the magic…
By Pauline Brown, Club President

"Debate Night” at Silver Spring Toastmasters on the eve of Thanksgiving 2012 was a huge success! 

This was a first for our club.  So the first order of business was to quickly and methodically demystify any debate angst.  And alas, no more fears, no more tears.  Then something magical took prominence—the ability to think and speak spontaneously. 

The man behind the magic was Merlyn Kettering.  With scrupulous attention to detail he organized a modified debate similar to Table Topics, with affirmative and negative arguments 2-3 minutes, and rebuttals 1-2 minutes.

As an important key to setting the tone and rules of conduct for the debate, Pauline Brown presented a 5-minute overview that defined debate, and encouraged the use of complete and full arguments.  Dave Zielinsky, in the article, “Disarm them with debate skills”, simplified a full argument as one which includes:

1) An assertion--the major point of your argument

2) Reasoning--your reason for believing your argument is right

3) Evidence--support for your reasoning

From the Toastmasters public speaking toolkit emerged other elements such as: listening acumen, crafting quick responses, eye contact, gestures, vocal variety, and effective use of speaking area.

Sign-posting, a clear transition from one argument to another, proved to be a real a gem among the must-have tools of a successful debate.

As the saying goes, “To be forewarned is to be forearmed.”  Well, one useful forewarning prior to the start of the debate was that one will often be in a position where one will have to argue the opposite of what one believes.  Yes indeed, this forewarning really helped to take the sting out of some of the topics.

The meeting setting was friendly and inclusive, with chairs and tables arranged in a semi-circular format, looking more like a “C.”  Opposite-facing chairs, one at either end of the “C” functioned almost like a holding tank for succeeding teams of two debaters, while at the same time, helped to create a mildly competitive atmosphere. 

Following the drawing (from Merlyn’s real hat), for debate teams (A, B C, or D), and for the position of either AFFIRMATIVE or NEGATIVE, the two chairs were then occupied. 

The big moment came when the first two debaters, Joan Phillips and visitor, Ken Roper, from an Advanced Toastmasters Club in the District, took center stage.  With sword (the TOPIC) in hand, and with a clear definition of topic, the debaters charged.  First up, the affirmative, giving point after point facts in support of the propositional statement: “Election day should be a national holiday in years when normally-scheduled elections are held for President, Senators and/or Representatives.”

Somehow, the idea of a debate provoked (at first), a nice balance between sophisticated fun and heightened anticipation. That changed slowly, perhaps with the realization that there were no cameras in the room--none at all, not even Mike Nolan’s. And the fact checkers had the night off, presumably for an early start to their Thanksgiving preparation.

This first duel between Joan and Ken was loaded with powerful arguments, counter-arguments, and rebuttal, and was as thrilling as it was funny.  In one of the attacks in the friendly combat, Joan hurled the solid punch line, “election is the American citizens’ inalienable right, according to the constitution, and therefore a holiday should be instituted to allow everyone unimpeded opportunity to vote. 

Ken’s offensive punch mitigated the impact, as he hurled back a crippling rhetoric, “Should a holiday be established for all the many rights that we do have as citizens?”  He was resolute.

The other three debate teams were:  Mike Nolan and Ellen Segal; Assegid Habtewold and Pauline Brown, and Fiona Morrissey and Shirley Jarvis.

Mike and Ellen sparred over the ever-so-intriguing topic, “The United States should re-establish a national speed limit cap at 65 mph, as in the mid-1970’s, to promote energy efficiency and environmental sustainability.”  Mike really had the luck of the drawing, because as many might recall, he has a real affinity to transportation and traffic matters.  Not to be outdone, Ellen firmed her resolve, and stuck to her guns that the speed limits should remain where they are, for the benefit of truckers, for example.

Pauline and Assegid debated the topic: “All schools should set limits for the use of computers and information technology and strengthen emphasis on the use of textbooks and written assignments.”  Assegid spared no argument in support of setting limits—citing the negative impact of uncontrolled use of on kids’ overall development.  His rebuttal set the record straight, that while he is not advocating eradication of computers, he believes that their use should be limited.

With a career in teaching, dating back in the days of text books and hand-written assignments, you bet, Pauline’s critical thinking and persuasive skills quickly went into overdrive in order to argue the negative for this topic.  Her punch line was a powerful juxtaposition of the dark night giving way to a bright sunny day, and the overweight text books and hand-written assignments giving way to the free reign of computers.

Fiona attacked the provocative topic, “The death penalty should be repealed in all states and revoked for all instances” with her characteristic bold and direct speaking style.  This brought a new wave of energy to the debate, as she stated unequivocally the affirmative that there should be no repeal of the death penalty, as criminals can be rehabilitated.

One of the most profound rebuttal statements of the night came from Shirley.  She was a natural.  She planted her stance firmly in the negative as said, “the Bible says, an eye for an eye, but I say, a life for a life!” This was tantamount to a zinger in the Presidential Debates.

And like any competent leader, Merlyn left no one without a role.  All attendees participated in one role or another—some even did the balancing act with two hats.

Speaking of two hats, Joan was Master Evaluator.  She came armed with the evaluation criteria which resembled regular speech evaluation of Project #’s 9 and 10.  The focus was the effectiveness of the debate with respect to delivery, persuasion, and audience impact.

Coming out of the feedback from every one present was, “This was a great learning experience, let’s do it again soon.”  To crown it all, Ken made a very valuable observation that it is the audience we are trying to persuade, not our opponent, hence we should endeavor to make eye-contact with the audience also, while delivering our arguments.

Desiree’s primary hat bore the banner, “Grammarian/Aah Counter.” Yet, her report was quite brief as she admitted that her focus got lost somewhere in the friendly cross-fire or while she was being mesmerized by the debaters.  She redeemed herself later with a rather firm, but confident one-minute affirmative on the topic, “Children should not be encouraged to believe in Santa Claus.”   She opined that, on the contrary, children should know that gifts came from their parents’ hard-earned money, not from Santa Claus.

As with any properly run Toastmasters meeting, timing is everything.  With his proven mastery of the timing lights, Mel Bayo did not skip a beat, or a ray, for that matter.  Almost as if a mini side show, Mel delivered his report in a most efficient and stylish fashion.  Sounds Mel-anian to you? 

As the old adage goes, If you are given lemon, make lemonade.  Mel’s topic was kind of lemon-ish.  It said, “Barbie dolls negatively affect the self-images formed by children and youth.” Fresh from his Table Topics competition the week prior, Mel quickly and skillfully crafted and delivered a one-minute humorous argument against the topic. If laughter is truly the best medicine, we each got a belly full.   

Mahatma Ghandi was quoted as saying, "Honest disagreement is often a good sign of progress."  And progress we made. 

Silver Spring Club 1314 has taken a bold new step in galvanizing the speaking and leadership tools available, in the effort to develop/improve the art of persuasive argument. That’s the magic.

Let the next debate begin soon!

Our club shined during Area 62 Table Topics & Humorous Speech Contests

Under the leadership of Area Governor Andrea Tolbert, and active involvements from all Toastmasters clubs within Area 62 (Do Tell, Holy Cross “Word”, Monument, Silver Spring Toastmasters, Toast USS, and Top Notch), the Humorous Speech and Table Topics Contests that were held on September 30, 2012 at the Holy Cross Hospital was a success story to tell.

Andrea making opening remarks...

With humor and candid, Adrienne Charles from Monument, graced this year’s Contests as Contest Master. The Chief Judge- Sandra Coles-Bell, former District 36 Governor, brought her rich experience of leadership coupled with her extraordinary sharp communication skill to successfully direct the overall contest process. The Chief Judge plus the five-team Contest Judges- Bonnie Maidak, Mike Nolan, Louise Maitland, Yentzu Chen, and Kieara Butler worked together flawlessly and put forward two winners from each contest.

Teddy Walker, Adrienne, Andrea, Sandra

Not only that, some of our club members including our President Pauline Brown, and former Division F Governor Una Mae Kettering volunteered, contributed their share, and made the event a success story.

Una and Mariusz Dymerski

Mel Bayo and Merlyn Kettering representing our club contested for Table Topics and Humorous Speech, respectively. This time, Renee Davis (our club's VPE) represented Do Tell club and contested for Humorous Speech. These three classic speakers were formidable contestants in both contests. They performed greatly, and demonstrated how good they are in their communication ability. I was proud of them…

Mel Bayo, our Treasurer and former Area 62 Governor, won the club level Table Topics contest and went to represent our club at the Area 62 level. Though he didn’t get the top prize, as the contest was very competitive, he secured the second spot. However, since the winner of Table Topics contest- Gary Vogan, won’t be able to make it for Division level contest on October 14^th, Mel will go ahead to represent Area 62. Congrats Mel!

Mel- Table Topics 2^nd place winner, & Andrea 

Representing Do Tell, our VP of Education- Renee Davis won the humorous speech contest with her trademark: “My day at the DMV”. Congrats Renee! 

Bonnie Maidak, Renee- winner of Humorous Speech, & Andrea

Note: Renee Davis and Mel Bayo will represent Area 62 to contest at the Division F Table Topics and Humorous Speech contests on October 14th.

Good luck to you both!

In becoming forward pushing people

Most of the time, we are either forward or backward pushing people. To make my case, I bring to your attention my two equally important friends. Let's call them Mr. Boo and Ms. Foo. They provide me two opposing and contrasting perspectives and views. Today, I am going to introduce them to you and hope that they will do the same to you too.

First, let me introduce to you Mr. Boo. He describes himself like this: “I am a very practical, grounded, and realistic guy.” He celebrates his past and measures his progress based on his previous accomplishments. Likewise, he values people according to their past performances and judges them based on the mistakes they have committed. He is skeptic about people who are optimistic, positive, and visionary. For example, he complains about my other friend Ms. Foo by saying: “She is unrealistic, out of touch, and a dreamer.”

On the other hand, Ms. Foo explains herself proudly as follows: “I am a reasonable, optimistic, and visionary person.” She takes lessons from her past in order to help her better perform now and most importantly in the future. She strongly believes that her worst days are behind, and her best days are ahead. When she relates with others, she focuses more on their strength, where they are going, and in their future. If she ever goes back into someone’s past, this is to point out those weaknesses, failures, and mistakes to help that person draws lessons and uses them to push himself or herself forward. Ms. Foo doesn’t normally complain about others. However, I pushed her a little bit and asked her to express her views about Mr. Boo. Finally, she gave up and said, “You know him. He is a status quo maintainer, pessimistic, and picky.”

If we want to be successful, we should be people who have positive outlook about others. We should also become forward pushing individuals. Rather than focusing where people have been, and what they have done wrong, we should focus on their passion and help them achieve their dream. We should also hang out with people like Ms. Foo who stretches, encourages, and supports us as we pursue our vision.

I truly believe that Toastmasters are like Ms. Foo and hang out with people like themselves such as positive, encouraging, and visionary people. We should be grateful since Toastmasters has given us this wonderful chance to be with people who are like Ms. Foo. Twice a month, positive, visionary, and reasonable people gather to support one another focusing on their future and vision. We have people who provide us positive and constructive feedbacks that would improve our speaking skills.

Of course, there are people in our life who are like Mr. Boo whom we cannot do anything about except loving and serving them. They could be our relatives, neighbors, and colleagues at work. We were born into a family and we cannot change that. We are working in an organization and we should have wisdom on how to cooperate and get along with such personalities, at least, until we change the job.

As I prepare for this message, I asked Ms. Foo to give me three tips that may help develop a personality like her:

·  “First, to become positive,” she said, “Audit your personality continually and turn negative and pessimistic characters into positive and optimistic.”

·  “Second,” she pointed out, “It is possible to turn around back-pushing people into forward-pushing. To achieve that, someone should be a positive influencer!” By the way, she doesn’t mind for my being a friend of Mr. Boo. For that matter, she encourages me to take him to Toastmasters so that he may turn from backward to forward pushing person. I heeded to her advice, and therefore, I am planning to bring him here one of these days.

·  “Third,” she stressed, “Association matters. It isn’t enough to be in a positive atmosphere once in awhile. Attract and maintain friends, colleagues, and partners who are positive, constructive, and visionaries.”

Don’t you like Ms. Foo? Hope, you do. If that is the case, let’s apply Ms. Foo’s advices and become positive and forward pushing people here at Toastmasters, in our place of residence, work, and wherever we find ourselves. Let's also use all the available opportunities here at Toastmasters and become extraordinary forward pushing people.

Club 1314 Does it Again

WOW,

Let me tell you if you missed last night’s Toastmasters meeting, I just want to let you know that you missed a great meeting. Silver Spring Toastmaster 1314 did it again.

First the mini storm had me wondering if there would be a meeting, would we have power? would there be down trees and power lines surrounding Marvin Memorial? would we have to swim to get there?  Then the rain stopped and there was still power around four corners and we proceeded with our meeting.  

A few highlights;

·        Mike Nolan as always did a fantastic job as TMOE, he pulled it all together so that we all enjoyed the meeting

·        Congrats to Mike Nolan on his Life Time Achievement Award, this a special award given to Mike for his tireless commitment to Toastmasters

·        Congrats to Una Kettering on her award as Division Governor of the Year

·        Congrats to Mel Bayo on his award as Area Governor of the Year

·        Four great and informative speeches, thanks Una, Assegid, Fiona and Clarence

      Merlyn's  unique approach on Table Topics had us all thinking about Toastmasters

·        Fiona completed her 10^th speech last night and in a few days will be known as Fiona Morrissey, CC

·        Clarence is on his way to Orlando, FL next month to compete at the Internal Convention,  Good Luck Clarence

·        We had our new Area Governor in attendance at the meeting, Welcome Andrea Tolbert

·        Welcome our newest Toastmaster Yanique Redwood.  Yanique has already signed up for an agenda role for our next meeting, YEAH!

The snacks was very healthy, except for the oatmeal and raisins cookies, wait a minute, there was oatmeal and there was sraisins, in my book that qualifys as a snack healthy also!

A special thank you to all the Super Sports and you know who you are!

Alright now that you see what you missed, don’t miss the next meeting, August 1^st, the agenda is already posted and roles are being filled as we speak, do not miss this opportunity to get your speeches in, there is a lot to tell us about, Did you lose power in the storm?  How was your 4^th of July?  Did you catch the bouquet at the wedding? Are you getting married soon?  Tell us your stories they make great speeches 

Oh one more thing our Club Contest is just around the corner,  Table Topics and Humorous Speeches, stay tuned for the date and don't be late.

New beginnings for Silver Spring Toastmasters Club 1314

Mel thanking Club Officers (2011-2012) for the job well done

The meeting on Wednesday June 20, 2012 was a new beginning because:

1. New Club Officers were inducted, and

2. Two new CC’s were achieved by Drew Kolody and Renee Davis. 

Congratulations to Drew and Renee!!!

What a fantastic year it has been, thanks to Club Officers of the year 2011-2012. Lots of milestones were achieved including the most prestigious award: President's Distinguished Club.

Mel inducting the new Club Officers (2012-2013)

The new Officers of Silver Spring Toastmasters Club 1314 for the year 2012-13 Pauline Brown, President; Renee Davis, VP Education; Desiree Payne, VP Membership; Shirley Jarvis, VP Public Relations; Mel Bayo, Treasurer; Ellen Segal, Sergeant-at-Arms; and me Assegid Habtewold, Secretary installed by immediate Past Area 62 Governor, Mel Bayo. 

Una-Mae Kettering, immediate past Division F Governor, took the turn and inducted Mel. The ceremony was terrific and full of fun.

Una inducting Mel

Representing the previous leadership, Joan Phillips- the immediate past President of our Club beautified the event by awarding orange flowers to both past and newly inducted Club Officers. Joan’s color choice was purposeful. It was the Club’s color- orange which, according to Joan, is “a powerful color evocative of activity, fun, socialization, and more.”

Mel Bayo, the Toastmaster of the Evening, artfully led the event and made it colorful. Below are the three inspirational speeches from three great communicators:

1. “Give One Piece a Chance” by Drew Kolody
2. “I Have a Dream” by Renee Davis
3. “Be the Spark” by Myrln Kettering

Every new beginning starts with a “Dream”, says, the new President of our Club Pauline Brown. Both Renee and Merlyn made reference to Dr. Martin Luther King, who is synonymous with the word “Dream”. Drew also motivated us to listen NPR and some of us have already begun a new journey to listen Channel 88.5 FM.

What is more? We all profited from evaluations given by the Master Evaluator Myrln Kettering, and Evaluators of the three speeches enlisted above Fiona Morrissey, Desiree Payne, and Una-Mae Kettering.

We also received valuable feedbacks from our Timer Andy Jacobs and Grammarian/Wizard of Ahs Ignatius Cobb.

Many thanks to Mike Nolan and Una, we enjoyed your delicious refreshments during our social time. 


We were also so much happy to have three wonderful guests-Rebecca (from the neighborhood), Rebecca (from New Mexico), and Rich. We hope to see you again.

Thanks to Ignatius for the pics.


Keep your fingers crossed for another exciting and new Toastmasters year ahead...


Keep dreaming for another great new year: 2012-2013...

See you all on July 18, 2012. 

Living each day with a sense of urgency

When it comes to time management, there are three kinds of people: a) Those who abuse time as if they live forever, b) Those that live with a sense of urgency, and c) Those in between. I have been in these categories at some points in my life. What about you? In which category do you find yourself in this season of your life?

Time is one of the scarce resources in this world. We all have 24 hours per day and how we spend it determines our status in life now, and most importantly in the future. Paradoxically, whether we are rich or poor, educated or illiterate, known or obscure, we all have equal amount of time per day. If we lose the time we have today, we lose it forever. No rich, title, money or recognition can buy us back a fraction of second we have already spent.

On the other hand, if we lose our money, friendship, or health, we may get it back. That is not the case when it comes to time. Time is none renewable. That is why we need to enter into a sense of urgency to use our time on a daily basis wisely, effectively, consciously, and by pursuing those important things in our life, for which we care deeply.

We should also know that there is a direct correlation between using time efficiently and success. Successful people live with a sense of urgency and as if each day is their last. Accordingly,

1.   They allocate the chunk of their best time towards the accomplishment of those things they care the most.

2.   They don’t just make the time available though; they maximize it by investing their scarce resources.

3.   Not only that, they remain continuously aligned with those main things closer to their heart and exploit the time they have now and today regardless of so many distractions they may face every now and then, especially in this information age.

Unfortunately, we don’t find many people living each day with a sense of time. The majority of us fail to adopt this lifestyle and remain there for a very long period of time. There are, at least, three compounding factors that may disallow us from living each day with a sense of emergency and at the end of the day deny many of us success, significance, and most importantly fulfillment in life. These triads include but not limited to:

1.  Preoccupying with the past in the expense of the moment at hand. Talking, celebrating, or complaining about the past takes the majority of our time, focus, and energy. 

2.     Procrastination. By waiting too long until pursuing those crucial things in our life becomes too late or impossible. We pause or slow down today for better days ahead.

3.    Skepticism about the future. Some people have a very gloomy picture about the future that they forsake making each day count.

But, we should be careful from making a big mistake in the name of living each day with a sense of urgency. We shouldn’t make a blunder of entering into a pseudo sense of urgency. Therefore, we should familiarize ourselves with what is not a sense of urgency? For instance, sense of urgency doesn’t mean, we:

1.     Do things with a fast pace and all the time, without rest, and by ignoring some important tasks such as learning and growing on a daily basis. Sense of urgency doesn't mean that we do certain things in a fast paced without rest & in the expense of other important aspects of our life.

2.     Avoid our obligations in serving our communities, churches, and nations.

3.   Undermine other important aspects of our life such as our relationships, health, spirituality, and social life.

In conclusion, time is none renewable resource that we should maximize the time we have at hand and each day towards those things that are at most urgent in our life, things that matter the most. Yet, we should be cautious not to enter into a state of pseudo sense of urgency. We should also know that our success here at Toastmasters is determined by how much time we allocate for it and whether it is one of our priorities. We should also use every opportunity here in our club to improve our skill on how to use time wisely.